Dionne's winning entry

A person has to be responsible for their own wellbeing. Wellbeing means to be healthy and Growing up always has its ups and downs but without those we wouldn’t be who we are today. Sometimes things happen in life that we have no control over and we have to try our best to deal with them. Things like dealing with the death of a loved one. Also knowing that emotional support is available and that it’s OK to admit things aren’t going well.

There is always people there for you that you can talk to such as guidance teacher for example. I lost my grandma last year and I found this a big struggle and at the time I confided in my guidance teacher because I didn’t want to upset anyone in my family when talking about what had happened. I found my guidance teacher was really understanding and she is always there whenever I needed to talk. I am really grateful for everything she did to support me. I think that the good thing is that emotional support is always available in schools and it’s something that schools are working on in improving and making better which is really positive.

Also building up healthy relationships with people such as friends and family. They can have a big impact on your wellbeing and help whenever things aren’t going well. They can also help you cope in healthy ways such as giving you lots of support, looking after you, taking care of you, being able to suit your emotional needs, loving you and just being someone you can confide in. Sometimes in your hardest times friends walk away but as they say harder times reveal true friends. But the best thing is knowing that family will always be there whenever you need them.

The main thing is looking after your physical health and making sure that you’re looking after yourself during a stressful and difficult time. When you’re going through a difficult time sometimes you can be more prone to illness or be left feeling exhausted or drained. It’s always important to take care and making sure that you’re happy and healthy.

Also being able to ask for help when things aren’t going well is a main thing. I think it should be important that people know that asking for help doesn’t make them ‘weak’ it actually shows courage and strength. I once asked for help because I found grief very difficult and am I ashamed? No I’m not ashamed because it makes me who I am today and whatever I went through doesn’t define who I am.

The one thing I’ve learned is that whatever you go through in life you’ve just got to keep going because it will get better. As they say, ‘There’s always light at the end of a dark tunnel’ and having a positive attitude can also benefit having good wellbeing.

These are some websites Dionne found helpful after she’d lost her grandma:
www.rd4u.org.uk (grief and loss, I found this one very useful)